Getting engaged is just the beginning of an exciting journey — but before walking down the aisle, there’s a lot more to prepare than just the wedding itself. Marriage is both a celebration and a serious life transition, so here’s a planning-based guide to help couples organize everything that matters before saying “I do.”
Start with your ideal wedding date and work backward. Consider time needed for:
Booking venues
Sending save-the-dates
Securing vendors
Travel arrangements for guests
Aim for at least 9–12 months of planning time when possible.
Break it down month-by-month:
Choose ceremony/reception venue
Hire a planner (or assign planning tasks)
Buy attire
Book photographer, caterer, DJ/band
Apply for a marriage license
There are plenty of printable or app-based checklists to help.
Marriage is more than the event — it’s a partnership. Sit down and talk through:
Career goals
Where you’ll live
Kids and parenting styles
Religion or spiritual expectations
Future lifestyle (travel, home ownership, etc.)
Before marriage, take time to:
Review each other’s income, debt, and savings
Decide how you’ll manage joint expenses
Set financial goals (home, retirement, emergency fund)
Talk taxes, insurance, and wills (yes, now!)
Don’t forget the paperwork:
Obtain your marriage license (check your state’s rules)
Consider prenuptial agreements (especially for second marriages or businesses)
Decide on name changes, insurance updates, and other legal documents
If you haven’t moved in together yet, now’s the time to plan:
Will you move into one person’s current home?
Rent or buy a new place?
Combine furniture or redecorate together?
Whether through a faith organization, therapist, or workshop, premarital counseling helps couples:
Improve communication
Learn conflict resolution skills
Align expectations for marriage
Depending on your culture or preferences, coordinate:
Engagement party
Bridal shower or bachelor/bachelorette events
Rehearsal dinner
Keep things joyful but within budget!
Choose a destination together and decide on:
Budget
Timing (right after wedding or delayed)
Required documents (passports, visas)
Booking flights, hotels, and experiences
Planning a wedding is exciting but can be stressful. Prioritize regular date nights, open conversations, and checking in on how you’re both feeling during the process.
Planning before marriage isn’t just about seating charts or honeymoon resorts — it’s about designing a shared life together. From logistics and money to dreams and daily life, the more you prepare together now, the stronger your marriage will be from day one.